My friends make jokes sometimes that offend me, but when express my discontent they brush me off. What do I do?
First, I suggest you not let them affect you with the negative jokes they may have. They probably don’t think it’s such a big deal and tend to maybe think of what they say are harmless even if it does affect you and not them. Try to sift out the possible underlying messages and see if there is anything you can learn from what they say at times.
Then maybe be more up front about what they are saying offends you and try to help them understand why. Try to ease it into a conversation or when they bring up the offensive jokes let them know straight up how you feel about them. Explain to make them understand in a way that they know why it offends you.
If that tactic doesn’t work after a few attempts, try to find someone who understands where you are coming from and see if they could try to explain to your friends from different perspectives and they should be able to understand. Some people don’t change. If that is how they are then, I suggest to try and find other people to hang with that see things from your point of view about offensive jokes. This website can also help in dealing with people you may find negative. http://zenhabits.net/negative/
How do you deal with bad friendships gone south?
You have to take a step and realize it’s not your fault and that people change over time and so do you. That may cause different personalities to clash over time as they change and adapt to experiences that has shaped and molded the person that they are and that you are. I can only speak from my own experience, just let it be. If they are meant to stay in your life they will and if not then still continue on your own way even if that friendship has broken off and is transitioning into the stranger zone. Everything happens for a reason and we all grow from these reasons to become a better person and a more wise one over time.
Have you ever felt hated that you felt like an outcast? because I do and it hurts me that I feel this way, how can I stop being hurt?
I have and it is not a good feeling at all. You must learn to love yourself and if people treat you differently because you are different learn to love that difference in yourself and make it into something you can use to change for the better and to apply it to something worthy. Try goals, schoolwork, or something you are very talented in. Then the other people treating you as an outcast will not matter much to you anymore once you have gotten your mind onto something you really enjoy and can learn to thrive in.
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