What do I do when I get accused of something I didn’t do, and the accuser wants to get physical to “teach me a lesson”?
I suggest that first you try to talk to them calmly and reasonably, in a place where many people can see you in case they become physical. Make sure not to be rude or condescending, as this could just anger them further. If talking it out does not solve the problem, then get a guidance counselor or vice principal involved, especially if the accuser is threatening harm. Don’t let their accusations and behavior bother you; you never did anything wrong, and it’s their problem if they want to overreact, not yours. You should always try to ignore people who are mean or unpleasant to you.
Why do people feel the need to be surrounded by drama?
Many people feel the need to gossip and create drama because it gives them something to do and makes them feel better about themselves. It is simply human nature. Gossip makes people feel better than those they gossip about, and drama makes them feel important and at the center of attention. You will most likely be surrounded by dramatic people for most of your life, until some of them start to realize it is time to grow up. It is up to you to not feed into and do not let it consume your life.
People focus on the over sexualization of women in our media, but why doesn’t anyone care about the over sexualization of men?
The over sexualization of women is often more obvious. Most males on magazine covers are fully clothed while women have some sort of edited feature that the media wants them to “sell” to the audience. It also doesn’t help that in real life there are still many inequalities. Well-respected women don’t seem to attract as much “attention” or money as the “attractive young sexual version” does. In many places, a girl cannot walk on the sidewalk without being harassed if she is deemed attractive by other males. People might be able to focus more on the over sexualization of men in the media when the over sexualization of women in real life is resolved.
A guy I like has a girlfriend and we were getting really close and then he backed off. We didn’t talk for a month and then he started slowly trying to talk to me again. What should I do?
Most likely his girlfriend felt threatened by your closeness, so she told him to stop talking to you. Now he is starting to talk to you again because his girlfriend has gotten over her jealousy or because they broke up. If he is still together with his girlfriend, then you should probably respect that. If you think you’re able to start talking to him again and remain just friends, then that’s fine, but be warned that his girlfriend may not like it. If they did in fact break up, then I would say he’s now fair game.