I am having so much stress because of all the school work the teachers have put on me and juggling it all trying to get good grades is very hard for me and I don’t know what to do with all this at one time could you please help in how I can lower my stress or make this whole ‘school’ thing easier on my body?
School can cause a lot of stress for teenagers and it is up to us to figure out a way we can deal with it or lower stress overall, and try to balance out the inevitable. Yoga and green tea can definitely help calm down your body and breathing exercises as well can help even more in calming your body down putting it into a state of rest and lower anxiety as well. These links should help.
My friend is in an abusive relationship. How do I talk to her about it without her getting angry at me?
Try not to push the topic onto her when you do decide to talk to her about it because a person has many reasons for not leaving an abusive relationship, sometimes, to the point where they can’t leave or else they’ll get hurt. She’ll be hesitant to tell you everything or try to leave so please take time and be understanding. It is a process for her to take in and to be able to actually take action and leave the abuser without getting stalked, hurt or worse. Now if they situation becomes extreme it’s best to phone officials like the police but if it’s mild and always starts out that way before it does escalate but ask her open ended questions (and do not judge or criticize in any way) in a safe private place so that she’ll answer truthfully about her emotions and how she feels about that said relationship.
Don’t try to make decisions for her but instead encourage her to seek help for herself first so that she can feel more in control of the situation that what her abuser wants her to feel. Don’t expect her to leave immediately or make a decision soon but be sure to offer long term support for her if anything does or doesn’t happen. Keep in mind that she is the one that has to make the decision for herself to seek help. Provide her with other means of contacting people that could help her such as National Center for Victims of Crime in Washington, D.C. (800-394-2255) or National Domestic Violence Hotline number (800-799-SAFE).
My friends make jokes sometimes that offend me, but when express my discontent they brush me off. What do I do?
First I suggest you don’t let them affect you in any way in their negative jokes they may have. They probably don’t think it’s such a big deal and tend to maybe think of what they say are harmless even if it does affect you and not them. Try to sieve out the possible underlying messages and see if there is anything you can learn from what they say at times. Then maybe be more up front about what they are saying offends you and try to help them understand why, try to ease it into a conversation or when they bring up the offensive jokes let them know straight up how you feel about them and explain to make them understand in a way that they’ll know why it offends you.
If it that tactic doesn’t work the first couple of times try to find someone who understand where you are coming from and see if they could try to explain to your friends and such from different perspectives they should be able to understand if they are willing to. Some people don’t change and that is how they are and if that is the last case scenario then i suggest as well to try and find other people to hang with that see things from your point of view about offensive jokes.